Table of Contents
Preface vii
A Note on the Order of the Distinctions xi
Distinction 10 Winners take responsibility. Whiners play the victim 1
Distinction 9 Winners can have what they want. Whiners want what they cannot have 11
Distinction 8 Winners find a way. Whiners find an excuse 21
Distinction 7 Winners brighten a room by entering. Whiners brighten a room by leaving 29
Distinction 6 Winners listen twice as much as they talk. Whiners talk twice as much as they listen 39
Distinction 5 Winners enjoy life’s journeys. Whiners put their joy in the destinations 49
Distinction 4 Winners build friendships. Whiners destroy friendships 59
Distinction 3 Winners think big. Whiners think small 69
Distinction 2 Winners are focus-minded. Whiners are scatterbrained 77
Distinction 1 Winners create positive meanings. Whiners create negative meanings 85
What Now? 93
